This is so true.
It sounds so simple, yet so many of us regularly deny the way we feel.
For far too long, I’ve swallowed my feelings and pretended not to feel what I really feel through avoidance and denial. I have slowly started to learn to recognise when I am denying or avoiding.
I often clean when I’m upset, sometimes it’s merely to help me ground myself (more on that later), but also it’s a way of trying to avoid my feelings, particularly of fear and pain. Anger and tears often accompany my obsessive cleaning. Hardly a successful way to escape my feelings is it?
There are other behaviours too. The one I have relied on the most as a short term coping mechanism, is pretense. I pretend I feel the opposite of what I really feel. I’ve pretended for so long, that it has become natural to such an extent that a…
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